My god, is he ever a hot butch.
Can I get a witness?
Search the OurChart profiles for Washington, DC. Giggle. Wait, feel kind of bad. Giggle again. Vow to remain single for rest of stay in Washington, possibly for rest of life.
Dear GOD.
Uh, I keep having dreams about performing drag. I'm not sure what's wrong with me, but ...
Dear Subconscious:
I can't tie a tie. Not so great for drag, actually. Also, binding? Prolly not gonna help me too much at this juncture. I'm just putting things out there.
Yours,
tentimesfast
saying 'whorl?'
tentimesfast sent me this link long, long ago and it doesn't touch much on lesbians, but still, someone studying how a hair whorl could genetically explain that you are gay equals fun reading. No? Say 'whorl' again.
Femme invisibility! Woo-hoo!
First, have a Lolcat. You deserve one:
Now that I've inserted a random photo of a cat to illustrate femme invisibility, let's hit it: invisibility fucking sucks. I'm sorry that it happens to you, especially in queer spaces. For the record, I assume that every femme girl I see in a queer space is queer. Sucks for the straight girls, but I'd rather make straight girls uncomfortable than queer girls sad.
Equally fucking sucky is the idea that The Queer Community (tm), breaker of stereotypes and bender of genders, is pretty much complicit in all of this. We are just as bad (and probably worse than) as heteros. Except we don't say that someone is "too pretty to be a lesbian", we say that girls don't "look queer". Rock and a hard place, son.
About the "girlfriend" stuff: the only people who still think that "girlfriend" means BFF are so deeply deluded about your sexual identity that you probably don't want them to know anyway.
And "partner" sounds like you're about to play tennis with your woman. Or open a law firm with her. ONE OF THE TWO.
We're fucked for alternatives, frankly. Better to put our collective energy into alternative pronouns ("zim" for the WIN) than to create language that would adequately describe the most important relationships we have. Where are your PRIORITIES, HLE? I mean, GOD!
Conversation while waiting in a long ass line for the bathroom at Phase Fest:
Cougar No. 1: "See, like most of these girls you KNOW are lesbians, because of how, you know, they look, but that one (drunkly gesturing toward me) doesn't look like a lesbian. How would anyone know?"
Cougar No. 2: "I don't know, ask?"
I should add the Lesbian Cougars were together, as in together, together. But it brought up something that has been on my mind for awhile: Invisibility. I dress "straight," ergo, (see low femme) look "straight" so people don't always understand or see me. And when I mention that I have a girlfriend, they think I'm old-fashioned. Ugh.
It's difficult to not have words that fully explain what your significant other is to you. I refuse to use Life Partner. Or Partner. Unless I'm in a cowgirl mood, which, Howdy Partner.
Suggestions?
