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Femme invisibility! Woo-hoo!

First, have a Lolcat. You deserve one:




Now that I've inserted a random photo of a cat to illustrate femme invisibility, let's hit it: invisibility fucking sucks. I'm sorry that it happens to you, especially in queer spaces. For the record, I assume that every femme girl I see in a queer space is queer. Sucks for the straight girls, but I'd rather make straight girls uncomfortable than queer girls sad.

Equally fucking sucky is the idea that The Queer Community (tm), breaker of stereotypes and bender of genders, is pretty much complicit in all of this. We are just as bad (and probably worse than) as heteros. Except we don't say that someone is "too pretty to be a lesbian", we say that girls don't "look queer". Rock and a hard place, son.

About the "girlfriend" stuff: the only people who still think that "girlfriend" means BFF are so deeply deluded about your sexual identity that you probably don't want them to know anyway.

And "partner" sounds like you're about to play tennis with your woman. Or open a law firm with her. ONE OF THE TWO.

We're fucked for alternatives, frankly. Better to put our collective energy into alternative pronouns ("zim" for the WIN) than to create language that would adequately describe the most important relationships we have. Where are your PRIORITIES, HLE? I mean, GOD!